Dating Attractive Vs Unattractive Men

My mum always told me to avoid the overly attractive man and to go for the mildly unattractive man. Her reasoning is that they would be less egotistical and far more agreeable. She reckoned that they would have better personalities all around.

I love my mum but completely disregarded her dating advice.

I realised as a teenager that I was considered highly attractive and grew even more desirable as a young lady. The very idea of dating B or C class material was just beyond me. I always managed to land seriously hot guys, much to the dismay of my peers. That said, it may sound as though I slept around a lot. That would be entirely untrue. More than likely, he wasn't getting any. You see, I didn't put any value on personality or relationship. I could put up with a complete wanker as long as he was attractive enough. I liked being toted about in the company of hot guys. Plain and simple. Connecting, relating, love or intimacy were entirely lost on me.
I was shallow as a puddle on the walkway.

As I got older and broadened my social circle. Many of my peers were partnering up and getting into relationships. I felt it was a complete waste of time until I met Piet, a tall Dutch model from Amsterdam. He was a good 12 years ahead of me but was the definition of physical perfection. 2 metres tall, broad shoulders that came down into a nice small waist. Chiseled facial features, deep brown eyes and dark hair. He made me melt into a puddle upon setting eyes on him.

Long story short, he wrestled me into a relationship. It lasted four long years until I could deal no more. I can not tell which wonderful behavioural trait it was that made me want to leave him, Was it his serious case of narcissism? How he struck a pose near every reflective surface everywhere we went? Was it because when he was hugging me he was watching himself in the mirror? Maybe it was his total inability to look after himself. Fact is there were so many reasons for me to bolt and so I did. One important fact I am leaving out is that he wouldn't even touch me for the last eight months of our relationship. The first few months it was annoying and then I became complacent.

I thought back to what my mum had said. I decided, why the hell not? I should try it. So I responded back to this unattractive guy friend that used to make me laugh. I thought, he is at least fun to be around and perhaps fun to shag. I made a trip on over to see him.

We went on a few dates, nothing big. He was constantly on point. I was laughing non stop at his antics. I was at least entertained though I could hardly bare the sight of him. He was so short, balding, narrow and thin. His face a bit weathered and looked older than he was. I could not have been less attracted to him physically. I decided I was horny, it had been awhile after all and a girl has needs. I seduced him into bed, not that it was very difficult to do. After an entirely disappointing session I kicked him out of bed. No way would I wake up to that face in the morning.
He seemed to take it the wrong way. He took that highly revolting shag session to mean there was some sort of relationship on.

He dropped by my flat so many times and each time he would get stranger and stranger. He knew that I was attractive and he was not. This both confused and lowered his confidence at the same time. He would question me why I would stand with him. He, being unattractive and generally common and me being hot. How we didn't mix well and what was I onto. I told him clearly I was trying something new. I had been lead to believe that the unattractive would have a better more rich personality than the attractive. Compensation or what not. However I had realised I was mislead entirely.

The unattractive have just as many personality issues as the attractive. Sometimes even more so, in his case. I figured he certainly wasn't good looking enough for me to put up with this nonsense so he had to go.

Mum, you were wrong? Sorry to say it but I have to enjoy the physical aesthetics, the personality can go on the back burner for now.

Now, maybe sometime I will find a hot and gorgeous man who is unaware that he is as such.